My bedroom is right at the front of the house facing north. It’s great because the bedroom gets the sun almost throughout the day. At the same time, whenever a car passes by, the neighbour dogs bark, or the birds chirp, I can pretty much hear it. They can be a blessing or a curse. The birds chirping – a blessing. The dogs barking – can be a blessing or a curse, it depends on the situation. At night, however, the whole situation can turn totally upside down. The birds chirping that is welcome during the day, is not so welcome at night, especially when you realise that there is a bird’s nest in the roof and the baby birds could not stop chirping at night, and meanwhile, you are trying to sleep. Although the barking of the neighbour dogs adds to the sense of safety of your street, you can’t help but worry a little bit whether or not something bad is happening. Afterall, if a bad guy broke into the house through the window or an alien hover boat crashed into the house, it is quite likely that my bedroom window is the one to go first. Furthermore, as I am a light sleeper (I am heavy, but I am a light sleeper), the littlest of sound would wake me up at night. So, a restful night is actually a great blessing for me. Actually, it can be a great blessing to you as well, whether or not you believe that alien hover boats exist.
Who do you think would make the top 5 in the list of the loneliest person on earth? An astronaut who spend months in a space station? A remote convenient store worker who spend twilight hours by himself awaiting any lonely customer wandering in before dawn?
On March 28, 1934, Admiral Richard Byrd decided to live alone in an isolated advance base to study the weather through the Antarctic winter. He would not see any other sign of humanity for more than four months. Byrd wrote in his diary that at the moment the lonely feeling started to sink in, “the things of the world shrank to nothing.”
The fifth of the Ten Commandments says: “Honour your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12)
There are parents who are always forgiving, always present, always loving, never yell, always humble, quick to apologise, and slow, I mean extremely slow, to anger. They are very rare, so let’s humour me for a while. For those with such parents would find it no issue to honour their parents. Or at least, they could not say, “But they don’t deserve my honour!”
But what about those with parents who fall short from our imaginary perfect parents? What if my parents really don’t deserve my honour? Should I still honour them? Why should I? Surely, God does not want us to honour our bad parents, does He?
Let me share with you a few things that hopefully may help you think through this issue when it comes to honouring bad parents.
“About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them, and suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison were shaken. And immediately all the doors were opened, and everyone’s bonds were unfastened.”
– Acts 16:25–26
As a Chinese Indonesian, I grew up reading some Kungfu comics and watching many Kungfu movies. Not the Bruce Lee or Jackie Chan’s type. But the ones where the guys adorn man buns with long smooth silky hair and the girls always use their big long sleeve to dab dry the droplets of sweat off their foreheads (think Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon movie, but with a much worse visual effect). While Bruce Lee or Jackie Chan have their Wing-Chun or Wushu skill to defend and to attack, the crouching-tiger-type ones would also have their secret move before unleashing an earth-shattering chi-releasing move that will incapacitate their enemies (think Kungfu Panda but without the cute fluffiness).
Well, Acts 16:25-26 records literally an earth-shattering move of Paul and Silas. They had been beaten up with rods and thrown into a deep dungeon with their feet chained. Paul was schooled not in a kungfu academy, but in a Rabbinic education system under Gamaliel. Silas was a prophet and a church leader. So, in that dungeon, kungfu moves would not come to their mind at all. However, they knew some ‘moves’ that would unleash an even greater power. They prayed and they sang. Yup, that’s right. Instead of mouthing some secret magic spell, they talked to God. Instead of screaming, ‘Jiaaat! Haiyaaaa!’, they lifted up scriptural songs and praises to God. Little that they knew, their moves would literally shake the earth, opened all the doors of the prisons, and unfastened all the prisoners’ chains.
“And he strictly ordered them not to make him known.” – Mark 3:12
As we read and study the book of Mark, we cannot help but notice that Jesus ordered individuals not to tell others about Jesus. In the beginning of His ministry, for example, he did not permit the demons to testify about Jesus even though they knew exactly who Jesus was (Mark 1:34; 3:12). Some say that this is because Jesus didn’t want demons to be among His witnesses. However, this was clearly not the case because Jesus also gave people the same order (Mark 1:44; 5:43; 8:30).
One of the reasons, I believe, was that Jesus knew that if many people knew who He was and what He could do, Jesus would not be able to move freely into towns to preach the Kingdom of God, which is the primary reason why He came (Mark 1:38). True enough, in Mark 1:45, Jesus could no longer openly enter a town because of his popularity.
However, I believe this was not the primary reason because interestingly, in Decapolis in Mark 5:19, Jesus actually said to a man healed from demon possession, “Go home to your friends and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.” So, there must be yet another reason for this ‘secrecy.’
If you are a Christian, you would have heard this rather famous verse. It is so all-encompassing that it is very fitting to be placed at the footnote of our notebook pages, on the pages of our wall calendar, framed beautifully on our wall, and on bumper stickers. On one hand, it gives us a simple and easy-to-remember guideline on how we live our day-to-day life as Christians: Do all to the glory of God. On the other hand, it sounds so … nice and so… Christianly correct (is there such term?). Even in our prayers, we utter frequently, “May it be done unto your glory!” or something along that line.
As Christians, of course, we want God glorified, and we want to bring glory to God. However (you may have sensed the ‘however’ coming, have you?), do we really know what it means? Do we really understand what we are talking about? Because, to be honest, sometimes I don’t know. Sometimes, I say that in my prayer because it is the right thing to say. Sometimes, I say that to make things more ‘complete.’ If it is not for God’s glory, it lacks something. Sometimes, and I think this is the worst, I use that phrase in order to make the thing that I do feel like glorifying God. I use that phrase as a blanket statement to ‘cover’ things that I do, to make me feel that I am glorifying God in what I do. For example, when we are about to study or prepare for exam, we would pray that God will bless the preparation and that our exam preparation will glorify God. But do we really know what it means? Sometimes, if we are honest, we pray that prayer simply to give ourselves a ‘God-glorifying’ stamp onto our study to convince ourselves that we glorify God regardless whether or not it in fact glorifies God.
“Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry.”
1 Corinthians 10:14
When I was young, I like playing a computer game called “Bandit Kings of Ancient China.” As a king of bandits you have to conquer territories to expand your rule. You will go into war with another king with your bandits leading hundreds of militia. In any battle, you either win or lose. You lose when the enemy annihilates all your armies. Or if you don’t want your armies to be destroyed or your bandit to be captured, you have an option to flee. So, in the game, to flee is to admit that you lose. But that’s not just in that game. In life, we all associate fleeing with losing. Winners will face the battle and stand strong. On the other hands, cowards and losers flee.
Should I eat that or not? What dress should I wear? Should I say that or not? Should I post this on my Facebook status? How should I respond to my parents’ nagging? Should I accept my friend’s invitation to go to that club? Should I engage in that kind of activity? Decision … decision … decision.
As Christians, we are free in Christ. “You will know the truth, and the truth shall set you free,” Jesus once said (John 8:32). However, why at times as a Christian, I feel like I am not free to do whatever I want? How do I actually exercise my freedom in Christ? Continue reading
As much as God has the joy of creating human beings in His image, God has given us the joy of having people being born in ‘our image’ – our ‘mini-mes’ per se. Of all relationships on this earth, only parents can understand that kind of joy. So, it is an immense privilege.
However, at the same time, it also comes with a huge responsibility, the solemn duty of parenting. In Deuteronomy, just before Israel entered the Promised Land, Moses reminded the people again who they are as a nation (or rather whose they are) and what they are to do with this new identity. One of their duties in the new land is to pass on God’s commandment to the next generations so that the worship of the One True God will continue. As parents, Deuteronomy chapter 6 is worth your time reading and meditating. But here, please allow me to outline just three points. Continue reading
In the last post, we learn that one way we glorify God with our relationship is by understanding the purpose of the relationship as God intends it to be and treating our relationship accordingly. God created human beings male and female. One reason is so that they can reflect the beauty of the Gospel and the intimacy of the Trinity in their marriage. God gives us the capacity to fall in love, the longing for faithful companion, and the desire to emotionally, spiritually, and physically unite with someone. Those are good, and God desires it to be fulfilled and consummated in marriage. Of course, not everyone must get married. It is totally alright to not get married. However, we must realise that relationship or dating is a stepping stone towards that end. It’s not supposed to be an end in itself. So, if you are not intending to get married, then don’t even think about relationship. And of course, not every relationship will end up in marriage. The success of a relationship is not measured by whether or not they end up married. However, we must embark on a relationship with the attitude that we are going to work on it towards marriage.