In the last post, we learn that one way we glorify God with our relationship is by understanding the purpose of the relationship as God intends it to be and treating our relationship accordingly. God created human beings male and female. One reason is so that they can reflect the beauty of the Gospel and the intimacy of the Trinity in their marriage. God gives us the capacity to fall in love, the longing for faithful companion, and the desire to emotionally, spiritually, and physically unite with someone. Those are good, and God desires it to be fulfilled and consummated in marriage. Of course, not everyone must get married. It is totally alright to not get married. However, we must realise that relationship or dating is a stepping stone towards that end. It’s not supposed to be an end in itself. So, if you are not intending to get married, then don’t even think about relationship. And of course, not every relationship will end up in marriage. The success of a relationship is not measured by whether or not they end up married. However, we must embark on a relationship with the attitude that we are going to work on it towards marriage.
This series, I hope, though specifically focusing on relationship, will serve as an invitation for all of us to seriously ask the question: “How do I glorify God with … (fill in the blanks)?” We must realise that we are simply stewards of everything good that God has given us. God has put us on earth and He has blessed us with many things in order that we enjoy them and use them in accordance to His purpose. So, if I want to know the answer to ‘How do I glorify God with my relationship?’, we must first ask what the purpose of relationship is to begin with. Why does God give us that attraction to someone? Why does God give us the desire to be with someone? What is the purpose of such desire? Deviating from the purpose means not bringing God the glory. On the other hand, fulfilling its purpose does bring pleasure to God.
So, what is the purpose of our relationship?
Jesus in Matthew 6:33 told us to ‘seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.’ Although the context is about anxiety of what tomorrow may bring, the admonition is still true in all areas of life. Apostle Paul also exhorts in 1 Corinthians 10:31 that ‘whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.’ Again, Paul was addressing the question of whether one can eat food that is already sacrificed to idols. However, the exhortation is still true in ‘whatever you do.’ With this, as Christians, we have to always ask the question whether our conduct glorifies God. However, I would also encourage us to ask a better question: “How do I glorify God with my …(fill in the blank)?”